Finding surrounds that actually fits, both the sizes, lip angle(s) and cone height
can be difficult.
Many of the sets offered are generic surrounds, guaranteed to fit everywhere
and they are rarely as good as advertized.
2mm is not the whole world and your speakers will be fine and will provide for many years of
listening pleasure, I'm sure.
However, it is a fact that the foam should be at rest when the cone is the same.
Any pre-tension in either direction is bound to cause distortion since the cone
will be easier to move in one direction than the other or it will have a dead spot somewhere near the center.
Very easy to see if you have a good signal source, a microphone
and a scope or, even better, a distortion meter.
No moot and no mysteries. Pure physics.
Martin