That book sounds interesting beocool, a tough love kind of "self help" book. Short on touchy feely stuff and longer on "grow the hell up" stuff. Something, sadly, the younger generations that have been raised with the everybody gets a trophy approach truly need. Yes, I'm an old curmudgeon, proud pipe and slippers brigade. Your music sucks and get off of my lawn! 😁
But the author is on the right track. Looking back on my life, most of the bad things that happened were either my fault, or if not they were often made worse by how I reacted to them. I'm older now, and pretty comfortable with who I am. As the old saying goes, not only am I not the man I used to be, to be honest I never was. One thing I've found that age does seem to confer on a person is more self awareness.
On the Pancho Barnes book, she was flying as a stunt pilot on Howard Hughes's movie "Hell's Angels" and apparently the flying was very dangerous, the planes had to get very close to each other and to the camera planes. She said the pay, 5 dollars a day, was way too low, Hughes told her to buzz off. So she got everyone organized, and formed a stunt pilots union, and in the end they were getting 50 bucks a day. Quite a look into the early days of aviation.