No clicking of a relay when inserting and removing the 3.5mm headphone jack.
Do you have a picture of the relay location?
I suggest that you check the circuit diagram before playing around with the relay. The relay does not turn the PL outputs on/off. As mentioned before, the contact breaker in the headphone socket could well be the culprit - it is directly connected to PL pin 4.
Location: Warwickshire, UK
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