Hi!
I have the same speaker setup, two beolab 18s and a 19, playing over WiSA from a Moment. I also first bought the two 18s, then missed the bass from my old Dali Helicon 400s, and added a 19 to the setup. My experience was completely opposite from yours. Adding the 19 gave me a feeling of coming home again to my music, and the setup sounded just perfect at all volumes with low, effortless, tight and precise bass. I definately don't think it is supposed to sound the way you describe it.
I'm away from home for a week, so I can't at the moment check the settings on my 19. I will when I get home though, If you haven't already figured it out by then, as I hope you will. However, I do seem to remember reading something about the WiSA-system. Apparently the system makes sure all the components in the system are informed about the specs and abilities of every other component in the system. Therefore, when you add a 19 to an 18-setup, the 18s will also dynamically adjust their frequency range, not having to struggle with the deep bass themselves anymore, and focus on the higher frequencies. As a result, you don't only add the bass of the 19, but the midrange and treble from the 18s should also sound better. I write this now from something I vaguely remember reading about. Is anyone able to confirm it?
Anyway, my point was that if this is so, there might be something that went wrong in the setup with the added 19, and it might be an idea to disassociate your 18s as well from the transmitter1 and start a fresh setup process that involves all three speakers.
Best of luck!
-h.